How to Start Building Your Relationship with God, No Matter Where You Are Now

Here is an amazing thing about God. He loves you exactly the way that you are right now. It doesn’t matter what you have or haven’t done; it doesn’t matter if you feel worthy, and the colour of your skin or eyes, your sex, or your race makes no difference either. You are accepted and loved.

You may be asking, “How can I be acceptable the way I am? Don’t I need to do something first?”

Have you ever stood at a sink and gotten yourself washed up, so you will be presentable to take a bath or a shower? Of course not! But that is how many people feel about God and church, that they have to get cleaned up first before they can come to Him. That is not how it works.

God has two beautiful attributes called grace and mercy. Grace is God’s unmerited favour and assistance to help us live a clean life. Romans 5:17 says, “For if by the one man’s offense death reigned through the one, much more those who receive abundance of grace and of the gift of righteousness will reign in life through the One, Jesus Christ.”

We can only get clean from sin through Jesus and what He did for us on the cross. That is the only way. We can’t do it ourselves.

“But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us” (Romans 5:8).

Mercy is God’s compassion for us. God knew that we could not reach Him, so He made a way for us. When Jesus died and paid the punishment for our sins, we were now able to go before God and have a relationship with Him. We didn’t earn it; it was a gift from God.

So, what does that mean for you and me? That we stop feeling like we have to earn God’s love because we already have it. That is the first step to having a relationship with God. Knowing that He loves you just the way you are. Now comes the incredible part: getting to know Him. There are many ways to do that, but here are the most important ones.

1. Read the Bible

The Bible isn’t just a bunch of stories; God poured Himself out in word so that we can know him and there is always more to learn. I have probably read the Bible through from cover to cover at least ten times in my Christian walk, and yet when I read it, I still learn more about Him.

In 2 Timothy 3:16, the Apostle Paul writes, “All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness.” One of my pastors described it to me this way: “Inspiration means God breathed those words into existence through the Holy Spirit into man to write it down.” God’s Word is alive and powerful in your life. Not only read it but study it and ask the Holy Spirit to reveal to you what it means.

2. Talk to God and Listen

In other words, pray. Prayer should be vibrant, like communicating with a parent or spouse. You talk, you share your heart, you laugh, you cry, and then you listen in return. As you listen, God will speak to your heart and you will find the answers that you are looking for.

3. Worship

Worship is recognizing and acknowledging God for who He is and what He has done in your life. It can be through music or spoken word. It can be through the written word, dance or art. Whatever way you were created to worship, do it. Worship is not only powerful for us but is a great tool for fighting when the enemy attacks.

4. Fellowship

You will never regret having a deep intimate relationship with Him.

We were never meant to be lone rangers. We learn about God through others. What they have overcome gives us to courage to face what we are going through and win. Because they also carry God in their hearts, we can experience God’s love through them. That is why the church is so important.

God wants to be the ultimate lover of your soul like any love relationship that is developed over time and effort. God has done everything possible to make it easy for you to come to Him; now it is your turn. I can promise you this: you will never regret having a deep intimate relationship with Him.

~ By Kim Thompson-Pinder

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  1. Reply
    Sheila Campbell says

    I love the way you laid out the article. It is heartfelt and to the point. I am going to share 8r with my Sunday school class tomorrow.
    Thank you

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      Geralyn Nim says

      Thank you for this nice article very helpful

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    Rev Narh Robert says

    I thank you for for your nice article

    It is very very enjoyable

    May God continue to bless you

    I will always share with others

    Thank you

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    Francis Farouk says

    Thank you for such a wonderful touching article. I feel so blessed and Loved by God.

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    Osondu Bartholomew Ikechukwu says

    Thank you very much for this short keys to developing a relationship with God.
    I will sincerely apply it to my life and teaching

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    God's girl says

    Thank you for the article am going to try all this steps am just 15 ,,I felt far from God am going to go back no matter what it takes May God bless you as you continue helping others

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